I'd stop the world and melt with you.

My want ad.

A man of character. True to himself and true to others.
Sense of humor. Abilty to laugh at himself and belly laugh with me. I mean really laugh.
Smile. I want to catch him smiling for no reason. And I want my face to hurt from smiling because of him.
Christian. A man to walk with me in my faith. Lead me at times. Follow me at other times. Pray with me at all times.


...maybe U2 says it best, "I still haven't found what I am looking for..."

A Day Late and a Dollar Short

Have you ever met someone and thought I should be with him?

And to your instant displeasure you find out he is dating someone else? Ugh. This has recently happened to me. I met this charming man, felt an instant attraction and then learned he was dating someone. I went on my way. It has been weeks and I can't stop thinking about him. 

Is it because he is with another? Maybe. But I don't think so. 

The other three women that were with me when I met him noticed the connection too. But did he?

Respectful me says leave it alone. Sassy me says call it out; make him at least think about options. Hopeful me thinks my friends will help. Silly me thinks Matt should just come to his senses himself.

Sassy and Silly prevail. 

I'll have what she's having...

Can men and women be friends?

I'd like to think so. One of my all time favorite movies is When Harry Met Sally and they debate that question throughout the entire movie. Some of my favorite friends over the years have been men. They are honest creatures....when they communicate. And they can get away with saying a lot more than women can...especially if they smell good.

There is a double standard, but I will be the first to admit that I can take "you looked better without the bangs" from a guy probably better than from some gals. Why is that?

I love my girlfriends. I cherish them. But there are times that I wish I had more guy friends. Guy friends that I knew for sure would never want to be more than friends. And that wouldn't ditch me as soon as they fell in love. I want to go to sporting events with them. And ask them the same questions I ask my girlfriends and hear the different advice they would give me.

This all only happens in the movies, right?

Yes - I suppose men and women can be friends.





(When they are married and both husbands like both wives, at least one has a grill to BBQ, and they all golf, and have matching Hawaiian shirts)

His love for me is SCANDALOUS

I heard somewhere that God's love for me is scandalous.
I love it!
And quite frankly someones love has to be...thank you, God.

I have gone out of Stacie Comfort Zone and gone on a few dates these past few months with different men (I know, I know...scandalous). These men are not right for me but have shown me that these past years of pain have been filled with teaching moments and growth for me. I am not completely free of being attracted to the broken quite yet, but I am much better at recognizing red flags, getting the uh-oh feelings much sooner and knowing when to say hell no.

There are things I need to work on. And I am and I will. But there are things I still don't understand (and I guess these things make me judging - a word I despise). So men, specifically those of you I have dated since January or perhaps am still dating - these questions/thoughts are for you:

Why do you say you are going to call at a specific time and then don't? Do you mean to and honestly forget or am I just that unimportant? I work with real business men and women every day. Do you think I can't handle an honest conversation about us not dating anymore? Get over yourself. I don't have time for games...except for real games like cards or Clue or Twister if your so inclined.

Kids. Lets get something straight right now. I love kids. I thought I would have kids. I don't. I understand (I really do, you don't have to break it down for me) that time with your children is important and a priority. Please just tell me when you'd like to spend time with me. I am a planner and a little bit of a worrier - don't keep me guessing. If you didn't want to be with your kids...I probably wouldn't want to be with you!

One night stands and friends with benefits. I thought I could do both and turns out I can do neither. Sorry to disappoint if that is what you were looking for in me.

I can only be me...but I need to let you be you.