Expectations... if they are too low I am setting myself up for disappointment. If they are too high I will probably get hurt. If I didn't have any at all, I would be brilliant. Someone show me the way!
A wise woman gave me some solid advice about managing my expectations. She reminded me that a tiger is a beautiful animal, but not if I want it to be a pet in my home; I cannot change the tiger to meet those kind of expectations. I would be imposing on the tiger. And that makes sense to me. What I can't wrap my brain around is when a person doesn't meet my expectations when it comes to honesty or cheating. I don't think my expectations are too high. I think they are normal. The wise woman says that they are high expectations if dishonesty and cheating are in the person's make-up and character and I am trying to change him (her). This whole concept blows me away.
I am all about accepting people for who they are, right? Then why am I getting this expectations thing all mixed up? I am going to make a concentrated effort to manage my expectations. Maybe I will start with a new long distance friendship that is developing in my life. I have no expectations. I sincerely want to just get to know this person. The wise woman I mentioned earlier says that women don't get to know enough men...we settle for one too fast.
Here's to no expectations and getting to know more men.
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